So you want to avoid a broken marriage?
Marriage is not the time or place for trial and error. You do not need to figure it all out for yourself.
Follow these guidelines to avoid a broken marriage and create the relationship you always wanted.
Know who you are before entering into the marriage. You need to stand in your own power and maintain your individuality in the marriage just as you did before making that commitment.
When you get married you do not become two halves of one whole. You continue to be two individuals living your individual lives while sharing one life together.
Always remember that fact. You do not belong to your spouse. Your spouse does not belong to you.
In a loving free and open relationship each spouse brings out the best in the other person. Look for the good in your partner and you will always find it - always.
Tell your spouse what to do to support you. If you expect that person to guess you will likely wind up feeling disappointed. Most people do not read the minds of others and that includes your spouse.
Would you really want that person (or anyone) to read your mind?
Sure, knowing you are connected on such a deep level feels great - sometimes. Remaining independent within the relationship allows you the freedom to be who you are and all you can grow to be.
Develop communication skills that make your spouse want to talk to you and also listen to you. Notice I said listen and not just hear.
Know how to be 100% present with your spouse when you do things together. In those moments your partner must be the most important person in the whole world and vice-versa.
Appreciate each other verbally and physically. The top needs of all human beings include love, touch and appreciation.
Loving and feeling loved keeps your relationship solid allowing both of you to know together you can overcome any obstacle and take advantage of every opportunity life throws at you.
Remember to hug one another every day, a minimum of fours times, preferably eight or more. Virginia Satir, the founder of family therapy, taught us that it takes 4 hugs a day to survive, 8 to get by and 12 to thrive.
Hug and say, "I love you" in the way your spouse needs to hear, feel or see those words/feelings. Never assume the other person likes what you do. Ask them what love means to them and show them love that they will define as love. Do the same for yourself by telling them what love is for you
Warning: Do not neglect the above! Make sure to take this advice seriously if you want to repair a broken marriage.
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