When He Wants to Be More Than Just Friends

I'm sure every girl faces the same dilemma. When your boy-friend wants to be more than just friends, saying no could be damaging to your friendship but saying yes could just make it worse when you break up. What to do? Read through and see if the tips provided will suit you.

Be straight with yourself

Before you give him an answer, ask yourself, do you want to be 'more than friends' with him? Because, if you do and you tell him no, you will find yourself in trouble. Every time you see him, there will always be a sense of regret in your heart. Well, there's always the option of moving countries when you just cannot face him. If you do share the same feeling as him, take some time to think of where it may lead you. If it's only going to end like any other relationship, I suggest you just say no to him. Otherwise, you'll feel more awkward after you guys break up. What is the point in a relationship if it's only going to tear your friendship away?

Religion first

Some religions do not encourage teenage coupling for numerous reasons. One of them, it may lead to teenage pregnancy. How? Well, as your 'feelings' for your 'lover' grow, you will feel more as if you're 'married' to him, and hence more open to share a more 'private' relationship. The next thing you know, you're in labour room with your parents looking after you, since your so-called-boyfriend is done with 'having fun' with you and is too young to look after you and your baby.

When you're a girl, you need to think twice whenever a guy asks you out - no matter how good or nice they look, there will always be a high possibility that they don't want you for who you are, they just want to 'test' you and then dump you, in search of another 'victim'. Think of what he has done. Have you ever heard of him cheating on girls? Because if he has, what is there that's going to stop him from cheating on you? Test him to see if he really is serious about the relationship, if he's not, get over the worthless guy and move on. There's always someone else who can do you better, if you only cared to wait.

Study study study

One of the best 'excuse' you can use. Why? Because it's true. Studies and boys, your studies is more important. Without it, you're less likely to succeed as you'll focus more of your concentration on your boyfriend than your grades and the same would happen to him. So technically, when you say no and explain why, you are doing a favour for yourself and him.

It's not the end of the world

Don't let yourself feel inferior than other people only because you don't have a boyfriend. I have some friends that just cannot 'live' without having a boyfriend. They're just so scared of not having one. Why? I don't know. It's as if having a boyfriend is a need in today's world. "If you don't have one, you're a nobody!" - that's what they all say. What about what we say? "You're not me, how do you know I'm a nobody?" Life is a test, and like any other test, you can't copy someone else - that's cheating! You need to revise and learn new stuff and answer the questions by yourself.

So, why do you stress yourself so much just to follow other people's lives. Who said their life is better than yours? Just be your own self and don't worry about what people may say, as long as you know you're right and is doing stuff that is best for you, your life! Don't be afraid, if you want to say no, just say no. At least you'll know for a fact that you do not have to rely on someone else to make you feel good about yourself